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So my FWH got diagnosed with prostrate cancer
6 years after the affair. Now that our sex life might be impacted by it I got into a trigger spiral. Please know that it’s because I push to take care of him and make him go to the doctor and keep up with his health that he was given an early diagnosis and it’s very curable.

However—-I think of how treatment will impact our sex life and I get angry all over again that he spent time having sex with her!!!

And on top of that "I AM the person who has and will always be the person taking care of him making sure he’s healthy!!

I am reminded how I did not deserve this!!

I am trying with all the goodness in me not to throw it in his face what he did - but it’s difficult.

At the end of the day I want him to get well.

Affairs the gift that keeps on giving.

I’m so sorry for you both. That is tough.

I find that almost every big, negative life event brings twinges of the A for me. I’m 7 yrs out. Major life changes, illnesses, deaths in the family, etc….and I go there. And why not? It was a major negative life event. It will always be a part of my life.

You didn’t deserve this….any more than your FWH deserves to have a cancer diagnosis. Take care.

You’re so right Ladybugman- every major life change. We are empty nesters recently and I went through it the first month!

Same thing happened to me when our son left for college for the first time....and when my brother passed.

The A brought me low with feelings of abandonment from my childhood. It is what our brains to do keep us safe.

And, it absolutely sucks to feel that way.

Take care of yourself.